Step into the holidays carrying less hurt, resentment and conflict with your kids’ mom.
THE UNSHAKEABLE
FATHER
Three-Day Holiday Season Crash Course & Initiation
A free online weekend event for devoted fathers who carry pain, resentment or conflict with their kids’ mom—who are ready to meet one of the most emotionally charged seasons differently this year.
Step into the new year with more power, less pain and a clearer understanding of how the situation is inviting you to grow.
Are you:
Bracing for another holiday beside a woman you barely connect with?
Navigating conflict over your kids?
Facing the heartbreak of spending the holidays without them?
Years beyond the conflict but still feeling the pain of what was lost?
If so, this is an opportunity to interrupt the old patterns before the holidays begin.
Come away better equipped for the moments that can hijack the season—the loaded texts, the tense handoff, the empty house or the memory of what happened—without letting them take you down.
November 20–22 · Two Hours Each Day ·
Live Online · Free · Limited to 15 Fathers
A GIFT FROM ONE FATHER TO ANOTHER
I know this pain
because I’ve lived it.
I’ll never forget the holiday season I spent without my kids, cycling through deep pain, anger and hopelessness, able to see my boys for only a few hours alongside a court-appointed monitor.
I won back custody the following spring. But the greater victory came when I stopped focusing on what their mom had done and began asking what this experience was asking of me.
A decade later, my kids are happy, their mom has become one of my greatest allies and we spend our Christmases together.
I know what it feels like to believe a woman is standing between you, your kids and your peace. I also know what becomes possible when you stop waiting for her to change and begin asking how you are being called to change.
As the holidays approach, I think about the fathers for whom this season turns up the volume: men living beside women they can barely speak to, men fighting over custody and schedules, men missing children they desperately love and men whose relationships ended years ago but who still feel the loss when the holidays come around.
So I’m opening a small circle of 15 fathers, at no cost, for three days of real work together before the holidays.
Not to solve everything in a weekend.
But to help you feel better equipped for what’s immediately ahead — and begin deciding that you’re no longer willing to carry this pain in the same way into another year.
In Three Days, You’ll Prepare To:
Stop giving one moment the power to take your whole day.
Recognize what’s happening inside you when she says or does the thing that always gets you—and create enough space to choose what happens next instead of automatically reacting, shutting down or spiraling.
Be more present for the holiday you actually have.
Whether you’re spending the holidays with your kids, sharing only a few precious hours with them or facing the heartbreak of being without them, begin learning how to feel what’s real without letting anger, grief or conflict consume the entire experience.
Choose what you won’t carry into another year.
Identify the patterns, reactions and ways of coping that are no longer serving you, and begin turning this painful chapter from something that happened to you into an initiation into the man and father you’re becoming.
The goal isn’t to make the holidays perfect. It’s to stop losing the life that’s actually happening to the fight, grief or story playing out inside.
what we’ll do together
ENTER THE CIRCLE
We’ll open our circle, meet the men in it and share what we’re carrying. Through brotherhood, guided reflection and ritual, we’ll begin identifying the behaviors and patterns that keep us caught in the painful cycle—and what they’re costing us in our everyday lives.
Get out of the story and into what’s actually happening.
sEPARATE THE WOUND FROM THE WOMAN
Discover what’s actually underneath the reaction.
We’ll explore what your kids’ mom activates in you, begin separating the deeper wound from the woman in front of you and practice seeing through her eyes without abandoning your own truth.
The goal isn’t to decide that she’s right. It’s to begin discovering how much freedom becomes possible when her actions no longer determine what happens inside you.
CROSS THE THRESHOLD
Choose what you won’t carry into another year.
We’ll turn insight into practice and create a personal plan for the moments most likely to knock you off center this holiday season—while identifying the patterns you’re ready to leave behind and beginning to see how this challenge might become an initiation into your own growth.
November 20–22 · Two Hours Each Day ·
Live Online · Free · Limited to 15 Fathers
different By Design
This isn’t a webinar. And it isn’t a support group where we spend six hours talking about everything our kids’ moms have done wrong.
We’re creating an intentional circle of men and doing the work together. Expect brotherhood, coaching, guided self-inquiry, somatic awareness, meditation, ritual, breath and voice.
You don’t need to be religious or have an established spiritual practice. Just be willing to get out of your head, listen to your feelings and consider the possibility that what you’re going through isn’t only a problem to solve.
It may also be an initiation.
If you’re looking for someone to tell you she’s the villain, you’re right and nothing inside you needs to change, this isn’t the room for you.
what fathers say about this work
“It can be exhausting to feel stuck and not know what to do. Clark has a way of helping me see a different perspective and instilling confidence and understanding. For me, that has been a real relief.”
—Adrian P.
“I’ve carried tremendous anger toward my children’s mother. Through my work with Clark, I’ve begun to see how holding onto that is not only hurting me, but affecting my relationship with my kids. I genuinely don’t want to stay stuck there anymore. That shift is a direct reflection of the work Clark and I have done together.”
—Scott S.
Are you ready to start meeting this challenge differently?
Maybe the situation with your kids and their mom won’t change before the holidays.
The schedule may still be the schedule. The difficult conversations may still need to happen. Your kids may be somewhere you desperately wish they weren’t. Or you may be sitting right beside their mother while feeling miles away from her.
But her choices don’t have to determine the kind of man or father you are this holiday season.
This experience is for fathers across the spectrum: married, separated, divorced, fighting for access to their children or years beyond the relationship.
The common denominator is simple: You’re tired of giving this wound so much of your life, and you’re willing to look at your part in becoming free.
Start by telling me a little about yourself in a brief application.
If it looks like the experience may be a fit, the next step is a private 15-minute call with me. I’ll listen to what’s happening, offer whatever immediate reflection or guidance I can and we’ll determine together whether this is the right experience for you.